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| Save me Mr. Perfect |
When I was younger I watched, with my dictionary, a
television series that has helped mould some of my current ideals and ideas of
what a relationship should be. This series was called Dawson’s Creek. Dawson was my favourite character. His devotion to Joey, so unwavering even when
she did not deserve his affection, was the first thing I looked for, at the
tender age of 14, in a boyfriend. I set
out to separate the boys from the men and made a list of pertaining to the
characteristics of the man who would truly be deserving of my unconditional
love. A few things on the list went like this:
- Must be able to skate-I suppose balance is a good thing to have in a boyfriend -___-
- Must be good with his hands-At 14, what the hell did that even mean?!
- Must listen to rock music-Of course this a true test of how much he loves me
- Must be good to his mum and sisters-Even young lil me got this one spot on
- Must be taller than me-Maybe I would have physically abused a shorter better half?
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| Who would You go for? |
The point is; the Relationship became an organization in
which I was the C.E.O and the boyfriend was a position in the firm and you had
to either shape up or ship out. The boy who would come close to fulfilling all
the requirements on my love list would, to me, be like a knight who tried to
rescue the princess, fell short and went back to work on his skill so he was
brave enough to defeat the dragon and win the princess’ heart. The weird and slightly embarrassing thing about this list is that I
had made it with such confidence but had no suitors to compare this list to. I
was hardly asked out and in some cases, acne and all, I felt that I was too
‘all that and a bag of skittles’ for the nice enough young boys who saw
something in me when all the cool guys didn't. To all of you, I do apologize,
but youth and naivety are the sugar and water that mix very effortlessly, and
I’m happy that those I do keep in touch with are doing amazingly in the
battlefields of love.
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| The ultimate Man of ste |
My ideals, of course, have changed and I now realize that a
relationship is
a partnership and not something that one can completely own
while raising the standards for a potential partner who may never be able to
jump high enough to please everything on the list. If I had had the exact
replica of what perfection was then I would have to be content with dating a
predictable bore that would douse the fires that keep my romantic heart
beating. Life is about compliments, if you want to control every aspect of your
love life then prepare yourself for a mundane existence without adventure or discovery.
I had to accept, rather painfully, that while Dawson’s Creek gave me invaluable
insight on relationships they also had a director to yell ‘Cut!’ so that they
too could pack up on set and return to the real world where complexities are
not always a bad thing.
Find someone who makes you wonder how on earth did you end up
with this retard and why do you love it so much?! A love that brings out the
best in you is a million times better than someone who can skate!
